Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

For my sister on turning 50


For my sister on her 50th birthday.
Turning Fifty
Judith Wright
"Having known war and peace
and loss and finding
I drink my coffee and wait
for the sun to rise.

With kitchen swept, cat fed,
the day still quiet,
I taste my fifty years
here in the cup.

Outside the green birds come
for bread and water.
Their wings wait for the sun
to show their colours.

I'll show my colours too.
Though we've polluted
even this air I breathe
and spoiled green earth;

though, granted life or death,
death's what we're choosing
and though these years we live
scar flesh and mind,

still as the sun comes up
bearing my birthday,
having met time and love
I raise my cup-

dark, bitter, neutral,clean,
sober as morning-
to all I have seen and know-
to this new sun"

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

"The endless scream in the breaking news"


Just heard that my step daughter's best mate in Sendai is alive. Nothing had been heard from him since Friday when the earthquake and tsunami destroyed much of the city. But he has just been sighted in a shelter in Sendai. 
Through the power of email and Facebook my step daughter, who is on a boat in the middle of the Caribbean, found about his sighting from friends in Japan and then she alerted me.
I pray for my step daughter's mate and all the people who have suffered so much in Japan at such terrible times. 
Like people the world over I have been overwhelmed by the terrible tragedy in Japan and the destructive power of the forces of nature and the earth on which we live.
So many terrible stories and images are emerging from the multiple catastrophes in Japan, and now, a few days later,  the full extent of the unfolding crises in the nuclear reactors and the realization of the scale of the devastation are becoming obvious.
Yet also emerging are stories of human endurance and survival, human compassion and solidarity, and ultimately the power of the human spirit. 
But it is hard to do anything but feel complete and utter despair at the horror of it all. And the terrible realization and question that has dogged me since Friday- is this an apocalyptic vision of how the world will end?- humankind and human civilization overwhelmed by the forces of nature and the earth, and our own hubris, in the form of forces we have unleashed- climate change and nuclear power.
This poem by Mahmoud Darwish, perhaps my favourite poet, was bought to my attention by Charandev Singh.
"Her voice carries her higher and further than
the seashore. She screams at night over the land
The echo has no echo
...so she becomes the endless scream in the breaking news
which was no longer breaking news"
...- Mahmoud Darwish

Thursday, August 12, 2010

August 12 2010: In memory of Kit Penter (1928-2008)


Today is my mother's birthday. She would have been 82 today. There is not a day goes by that I don't think I think of her and my father (who died in 1994).

Pablo Neruda says it best:
"They told me
many things, everything.
Not only did they touch me
and take the hand I gave them
but they were bound to my life
in such a way
that they lived in me
and were such a living part of me
that they shared half of my life
and will die half my death"

Thursday, July 8, 2010

At family gatherings











Tonight a gathering of three generations of my family from Perth and Albany - my brother and sister and their partners, my son and his 7 nephews and partners, and the baby daughter of one of my nephews. Seventeen in total.

At such events I am always reminded of a Wendell Berry poem from his book Leavings
VIII.

I tremble with gratitude
for my children and their children
who take pleasure in one another.

At our dinners together, the dead
enter and pass among us
in loving love and in memory

And so the young are taught

Wendell Berry

Monday, April 12, 2010

The love that binds fathers and sons

image courtsey of Reckonings

Over on one of my favourite blogs (Notes on) Politics, Theory and Photography the author Jim Johnson has written a deeply personal piece about the loss of his son in a sporting accident. Jim's moving piece is a beautiful exemplar of the power of the father and son relationship and a cry to celebrate and cherish that relationship very day. Jim's piece is a powerful reminder and one I am grateful for.

My own son has been away from Perth for nearly 2 weeks on holiday and I feel his absence profoundly. But I am lucky. He will be back on the weekend.

On the day I read Jim's piece I was listening to the English folksinger, songwriter and guitarist Martin Simpson who has written two profound and beautiful songs about the father and son relationship.

The song One Day from his 2009 CD True Stories was written by Martin Simpson and jazz guitarist Martin Taylor. The song is about Martin Taylor's youngest son who died tragically young, and is based on a 3 line poem Martin Taylor wrote about his son. Taylor asked Martin Simpson to complete the song. It is a profound musical performance, described by one writer as "a song of such exposed pain" and "a poignant masterpiece" by another.
ONE DAY- by MARTIN SIMPSON

Well my heart is broken
for I loved you so dearly
you're my romany charl
my dear gypsy boy

But the life that we shared
it was gone in a moment
and with it all pleasure
and with it all joy

You rode a horse like a king
and you sang like an angel
but it bought you no peace
by night and by day

When sunlight burns cruel
and moonlight shines balefully
there would be nowhere to go
and no reason to stay

You rode a horse like a king
and I watched you so proudly
with my heart in my mouth
afraid you might fall
and when the fall came
there was no-one could catch you
no one could help you
no one at all

The twin oaks in the hedgerow
they grow strong from such sadness
drawn from the grave
of a lost gypsy child

and the leaves and the long grass
they whisper your name
my romany chavel
so near and so wild

One day I will hear hoofbeats
and not grieve for the rider
and the song you sing
will bring peace and not pain
and the fields where you rode
on your pushty ride
will bloom with the promise of laughter again

One day I will hear hoofbeats
and not grieve for the rider
and the song that you sing
will bring peace and not pain
and the fields that you ride on
on your own pushty ride
will bloom with the promise of laughter again
On his 2007 CD Prodigal Son Martin Simpson performs the song "Never Any Good", a moving tribute to his own father. Simpson's song tells the story of his father's life and of the gifts he gave his musician son.
NEVER ANY GOOD - Martin Simpson
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, not hard enough for the hod.
You'd rather be riding your Norton or going fishing with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

When your grammar school days were over, it was nineteen-seventeen,
And you did the right and proper thing. You were just eighteen.
You were never mentioned in dispatches. You never mentioned what you did or saw.
You were just another keen young man in the mud and stink of war.

You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, not hard enough for the hod.
You'd rather be singing The Pirate King or fishing with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

You came home from the Great War with the pips of a captain's rank,
A German officer's Luger and no money in the bank.
Your family sent you down in the coal mine to learn to be captain there,
But you didn't stand it very long. You needed the light and the air.

You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, not hard enough for the hod.
You'd rather be watching performers fly or fishing with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

When the Second War came along, you knew what should be done.
You would reenlist to teach young men the booby trap and the gun;
And they sent you home to Yorkshire with a crew and a Lewis gun
So you could save your seaside town from the bombers of the Hun.

You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, not hard enough for the hod.
You'd rather be finding the nightjar's nest or fishing with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

And when my mother came to your door with a baby in her arm,
Her big hurt boy, just nine years old, trying to keep her from harm—
If you had been a practical man, you would have been forewarned.
You would have seen that it never could work and I would have never been born.

There's no proper work in your seaside town, so you come here looking for a job.
You were store man at the power station just before I came along.
Nobody talked about how you quit, but I know that's what you did.
My mother said you were a selfish man and I was your selfish kid.

You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, not hard enough for the hod.
And your Norton it was soon gone along with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

You showed me eyebright in the hedgerow, speedwell and traveler's joy.
You showed me how to use my eyes when I was just a boy.
And you taught me how to love a song, and all you knew of nature's ways,
The greatest gifts I have ever known and I use them every day.

You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job,
Not steady enough for the office, maybe, not hard enough for the hod.
You'd rather be riding your Norton or going fishing with your split cane rod.
You were never any good with money. You couldn't even hold a job.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Michael Breen's travels through Burma, Thailand and Laos















(photos taken by Michael Breen)


My good friend and esteemed colleague Michael Breen spends time each year traveling through northern Thailand, Burma (Myanmar) and Laos. Michael has family living and working there and also teaches English to various local people.

Michael has set up a website about his travels. It's a collection of photos, reflections on daily life during his travels and vignettes about people he has met and places he visited. Much more than a travel diary, its a moving reflection on life, on people and on places. Michael's introduction to his web site speaks in the following terms:
"Sometimes we travel on the surface of the globe and sometimes we travel inside the mysterious globe of ourselves"
The quote below from Rumi reflects the spirit and ethos of Michael's travels. It's a lesson for all of us in our busy daily lives:
"Give thanks; don’t be arrogant or vain
Pay attention without self-importance"
Michael has written some wonderful and moving pieces about people he has met in his travels. and places visited. This is a piece here about a man he met at a local market. And another piece here about conversations on a boat sailing down the Irrawaddy River from Bagan to Mandalay.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Reading Neruda




Yesterday a family funeral. A long life ended but the legacy of a life well lived and children, grandchildren, and great grand children continues long after life is ended. Since then I have been thinking of my own parents, now both dead, and the legacy they left me. I have been reading poetry, my solace, and I came across this from Pablo Neruda.
"They told me
many things, everything.
Not only did they touch me
and take the hand I gave them
but they were bound to my life
in such a way
that they lived in me
and were such a living part of me
that they shared half of my life
and will die half my death"

Monday, June 29, 2009

visitors, family, photos and meals

If you stay home, keep the same purpose,
to meet the innermost prescence
as it lives in people
Rumi

Monday night here. Huge winter storm has been though Perth today. Howling winds and showers all day. The storm has caused damage across the city.

I fed a house full of people tonight. My nephew turned up for a meal at short notice and one of Lillian's friends from Bali needed somewhere to stay so she is staying here with us tonight.

We ended up eating in shifts as people came and went and then we sifted through a pile of old photos I was collating. Photos of children, brothers and sisters, cousins, marriages, of adults when they were young, long dead parents and family members, embarrassing shots of children when they were little.

My 13 year old son spent hours chatting with his cousin Alex and also made calls to absent brothers and sisters- his sister in Japan and to his brother here in Perth with questions about a supposedly missing 50 dollar note. Then there were his plans to trade in his I Pod for an I Pod touch and discussions with his cousin about how he could sell his I pod on E Bay.

All this whilst my son and his cousin flick between Wimbledon and various programs on Foxtel. I sit at the table watching and listening and talking to our visitor from Bali about her children who live in Bali. She is telling me about her highly intelligent son who she thought was autistic when he was younger. Now he is writing computer games and short stories.